Have you ever given someone something to do but only to get it back not at all the way you wanted it? I have a confession to make – I am a bit of a perfectionist! For some things I am particular (certainly not perfect) with how things are done and if not done the way I thought it should be done I have a hard time with accepting it. Now, I have gotten better over the years by relinquishing that control and have come to understand there is more than one way to “skin a cat”.
As an introvert, and because I like to work independently I tend to lean towards the “let me do it myself” approach. I find this really works for me (at least with somethings) and I explain more what I mean by that.
Recently I was presented with a challenge (aka a problem) and I had to solve it. Someone was having a bad experience as a result of a recent implementation and this person automatically attributed the bad experience to the changes my team made. Since I was the only one that was available to address the challenge and knew about it, I can take it on and “do it myself”. Plus there wasn’t anything else critical happening at that time. So, I took it on. I spent a few hours on it and after some research soon understood the root of the issue had nothing to do with our recent implementation – a critical step was being skipped – which created the bad experience. This approach was fast and had a positive impact.
On the other hand, had I chosen to give this to someone else, getting a response back would’ve taken some time to resolve (since people had left for the day) which would further exasperate the person’s “bad experience”. Because I am a bit of a perfectionist, I didn’t want the bad experience to continue so choosing this option would have not work well for any of us.
Now, there are times when letting others help has worked for me despite it being difficult to accept. When I am deciding if it something I should do myself or give to someone else I go through the following process.
As you can see, I go through a series of questions to help me understand if I should take this on. Yes, some of the questions are different based on the situation but the process is similar. At the root of the process I am trying to determine if it is ideal that I take on the challenge or if it is better for someone else to do it. And, no matter how I look at it the challenge gets solved.
Are you a “do it myself” person or have you been able to lean in to leveraging others? Let us know as we would love to hear from you.